It is so hard to believe that someone we love can lie to us over and over. Sometimes we find ourselves in denial or so hopeful that we are stuck in our relationship. Stagnant in our life - sabotaging our own happiness.
The first step in the grief process is denial. It is best to move through this one as quick as possible. Although it will be done at your own pace.
Originally Posted by Valeska19
One of the best pieces of advice I was given was this. "When someone shows you their cards... believe them". I'm encouraging you to do so. He will most likely continue to lie so you need to protect yourself.. financially, emotionally. Dig deep WOS - take off your rose-colored glasses. See your spouse for who he is, and has been, and unless something drastically changes - who he will be.
Yep. The best thing a LBS can do is accept this is the person they are now and probably will be for a really long time.
Originally Posted by Valeska19
You deserve respect. You deserve not just the apologies but the sincere intent to repair what was broken. These are not huge requests but the basic human needs for love and intimacy.
This a great stuff. You absolutely can not have a LASTING reconciliation until this happens.
Originally Posted by Valeska19
I know you said you move your boundaries for your son... but what are you teaching him by doing so? What is the point of showing grace and forgiveness... if we don't also show children accountability and the natural consequences of our actions.
Again she nailed it! Forgiveness may come later. Your son will always respect the fact that you stood up for yourself. He may not understand now but he will in the future.
Originally Posted by Valeska19
You will get alot of support here. Our priority is your well being. So lets start by talking about what GAL activities you call do and what does taking care of you look like?
