Someone who really tried to learn you and listen to you, and understand you and vice versa. Feeling safe in each other a presence where you can feel.
See I feel you can figure out quick if a person will fill this bill.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Unapologetically yourself and build a connection to a point where you feel safe even being crappy you. Able to discuss abs connect on certain issues. Able to disagree but feel safe disagreeing. Making space for each other in each other a lives gradually.
How long do you think this takes?
Originally Posted by Ginger1
And of course this is all gradual as time goes on. But if you stay in the same spot for months where you are just someone who fits into their spare time. You just make out and have sex and have dinner together without getting to know that other person on a deeper level, someone who is emotionally avoidant and can’t be vulnerable or I don’t feel safe being vulnerable with, that’s what doesn’t work for me.
As it shouldn't.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Granted I haven’t gotten past seeing anyone for 3 months since M. But I can tell you most guys I have met have pretty much made me feel disposable and really have had no interest in who I really am as a person, mother, nurse. And while i guess In the beginning we are all disposable, no one should make you feel that way.
I agree 100%. I can tell you that if a guy is interested he will make time to see you.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Ok, your turn LH
So a special woman to me has my back no matter what as I have hers. She is HAPPY and healthy as am I. She makes me want to be a better person and grow and I do the same to her. She takes interest in my interests as I in hers. She remembers the little things as do I. She's not needy and has her own life, friends and interests as am I. She's SECURE in herself as am I. She's responsible but can get CRAZY at times as am I. She's insanely tan as am I lol. Just kidding. I know it's a lot and probably why the search continues but I am ok alone.
