Oh Jesus. Someone who really tried to learn you and listen to you, and understand you and vice versa. Feeling safe in eachother a presence where you can feel Unapologetically yourself and build a connection to a point where you feel safe even being crappy you. Able to discuss abs connect on certain issues. Able to disagree but feel safe disagreeing. Making space for eachother in eachother a lives gradually.
And of course this is all gradual as time goes on. But if you stay in the same spot for months where you are just someone who fits into their spare time. You just make out and have sex and have dinner together without getting to know that other person on a deeper level, someone who is emotionally avoidant and can’t be vulnerable or I don’t feel safe being vulnerable with, that’s what doesn’t work for me.
Granted I haven’t gotten past seeing anyone for 3 months since M. But I can tell you most guys I have met have pretty much made me feel disposable and really have had no interest in who I really am as a person, mother, nurse. And while i guess In the beginning we are all disposable, no one should make you feel that way.
