Sorry, I'm not sure how to appropriately quote, so I hope this is not too confusing.
I'm not sure how I feel about the meeting with the lawyer. It was so sad to think about all of the consequences of divorce. A lot would also depend on different factors still. My h and I have never talked about it so I have no idea what he wants (custody for instance).
I wouldn't be suprised if there is an affair because it seemed to be the case for a lot of forum members. It would also explain why he's been so checked out lately. Also, he has lied to me several times already. At this point I don't really know what he wants, or what he is up to. I don't know if it would be a deal breaker for me, it might tbh because I don't think I can handle any more new big lies. On the other hand, I keep moving my boundaries continiously, so who knows. The latter is mainly because of my son.
