I just told him I'm grieving and busy and don't have energy left over to console other people. Which is largely true.
Yeah - not a good sign when people are trying to push themselves into the lives of people they think are vulnerable. It could be that they just want to help, could be that they are seeing an opportunity.
It happens a lot though. I had a number of acquaintances offer hugs and to "hang out" as soon as they heard I was alone. I took the advice of good friends and made a commitment to myself to make no major decisions for at least one year.
It also happens the other way too - I'm confident that losing his wife and being extra needy is one of the things that contributed to my xW's affair with OM.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
