I think that is what we all had when we were first married and it is a goal now. I don't think any of us should sell ourselves short....if there comes a time that we know for certain that that love/loving will never be a part of our current M, then it is time to pull the plug.
what is most sad is that when you are not allowed to express to your partner your love in your way without constantly meeting rejection or a wall eventually you start to loose the desire to love them at all. For me at least I know that the wonderful bliss of the first years of marriage did not come my way...h had already in the years prior stopped letting me be me.
Through your questioning and analyzing it seems like you are answering some of your own questions (and who better to give you answers than you?? )
My answers aren't always leading toward the most positive outcome. While my h was gone and wanting d I was often told by people on the bb to read my sit as if it wasn't me what advice would I give...I was always troubled by that because the only advice I could come up with was "to hell with him". This r was tarnished long ago but I hung in there...I don't know that I can get past h's indiscretions and leaving us without a bit more effort on his part to foster more postive feelings in the relationship and he seems pretty adimant that what I see is what I get and I should be damn happy with it.
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