I would say that the vast majority of guys I’ve gone on a date with were decent guys…just not a match for me.
I agree with this 100% but of course with me it's the bleach blonde floozies I got out with.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
The creeps, thankfully, I was able to weed out prior to ever meeting them in person.
I think G's creep meter is broken.
Originally Posted by DejaVu6
If it’s just me asking questions and never getting a return question or an answer that is more than ten words, I lose interest pretty quickly. But that’s me…other people may have different criteria.
Yep I give two chances of them answering with no return question and I am gone.
How can my creep meter be broken if I find it out very soon? It’s working. It’s mostly creepiness before we go out . That’s what has turned me off .
Maybe it’s where I live. It’s my experience. Nothing is wrong with me, I don’t do anything that would Imply it is ok to be that way with me. My profiles are 100% PG, and well written. i let them go as soon as the creep comes out. Maybe it’s an unfortunate string of luck and OLD is just fine.
I am happy for anyone that has a positive experience with it. Positive experiences are out there for sure. It has not been that way for me as of lately. I don’t actually go in dates with most of them. But the process and dealing with the crudeness has become too much for me.
Great for you LH that you treat the ladies with respect. Keep on doing that.
Well if you MIP the creepiness in the bud before you go out and you had record dates the last year then I would say you met good people who just weren’t a match.
Well if you MIP the creepiness in the bud before you go out and you had record dates the last year then I would say you met good people who just weren’t a match.
Incorrect
I met perhaps half good people.
But having to be subjected to the creepiness with 90% of your interactions is sickening. For me. I dread starting a conversation with anyone.
My experience is not positive for me. That’s all.
Im happy yours is. Im happy you don’t have to be told disgusting things from strangers .
G - not everyone does well with OLD - my best friend didn't. In normal times, you might do best meeting people organically through activities or interest groups - that was just hard for you when you had a young child and not much free time. Maybe once the pandemic dies down, now that your daughter is older and your knee is fixed, you could join a team or charitable activity where you might meet like-minded men more easily. It's tough when you work in a female dominated field and have little chance to meet eligible available men at work.
I agree too with your daughter - friends are most important. My longest relationships are with friends. My best friend has been with me longer than my ex-husband was. She's more reliable too!
G - not everyone does well with OLD - my best friend didn't. In normal times, you might do best meeting people organically through activities or interest groups - that was just hard for you when you had a young child and not much free time. Maybe once the pandemic dies down, now that your daughter is older and your knee is fixed, you could join a team or charitable activity where you might meet like-minded men more easily. It's tough when you work in a female dominated field and have little chance to meet eligible available men at work.
I agree too with your daughter - friends are most important. My longest relationships are with friends. My best friend has been with me longer than my ex-husband was. She's more reliable too!
It’s true, I’m just not having much luck with OLD. And I know I have to throw in the towel before My spirit is totally broken. I’m hoping when thing s become more normal, I can join a hiking group. I have been trying to join this hiking meet up but it’s literally booked out for like the next 3 months. I am a part of a singles FB group for my state. I have yet to attend a meet up and I am hoping I get the courage to. A coworker of mine is in it too and we plan on going to a meet up together. I love to volunteer and when that really starts up again, I’m in. I do have a good set of friends.
I honestly don’t know why I keep trying. I’m used to being alone. I rather have a deep connection that a superficial one. The HHH actually is not for me I realized this year. I don’t just need someone to watch TV with or go to dinner with. I can do that on my own. I need someone who I can actually deeply connect with . I have only found found very superficial, even the good people I met. And I think I more desire the extended family and friends a partner could provide me, sadly enough.
I honestly don’t know why I keep trying. I’m used to being alone. I rather have a deep connection that a superficial one. The HHH actually is not for me I realized this year. I don’t just need someone to watch TV with or go to dinner with. I can do that on my own. I need someone who I can actually deeply connect with . I have only found found very superficial, even the good people I met. And I think I more desire the extended family and friends a partner could provide me, sadly enough.
Consider how many of us even on this forum are single and value that sort of deeper connection enough to work for it--half? Most singles OLD. It doesn't seem like it should be that hard online or offline if we're valuing the aspects of people that lead to a happy life, if we're working on the parts of ourselves that are obstacles to us seeking them or them seeking us. I wish I had an answer for why you're having such a hard time online. I will wish for your success offline.
You are correct. I haven’t met anyone special in a few years. That is correct. Everyone has been emotionally unavailable or it has been a very superficial connection with no depth.
Someone to have dinner with or watch a TV show with is just not enough for me. I need more than physically being there. I’d rather be alone.
You are fortunate to have connected with “special” women
