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It's that strenght that I fear. With that strength comes the knowledge that I could and would be at least somewhat justified in someday walking away. I don't want to know that (though in some ways it is healthy).





I don't know about "justified" in walking away, but just knowing that YOU are in control of your destiny, that YOU no longer have to stay in a M that does not give you what you need, that YOU have given 110% to trying to save your M, that no matter what happens YOU WILL survive and blossom. That is the strength that going through this process gives us.

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I just want to be loving and be loved..



I think that is what we all had when we were first married and it is a goal now. I don't think any of us should sell ourselves short....if there comes a time that we know for certain that that love/loving will never be a part of our current M, then it is time to pull the plug.

Through your questioning and analyzing it seems like you are answering some of your own questions (and who better to give you answers than you?? )

Wishing