Interesting. Record amount of dates since June. How many were from real life? How many were creeps? How many just weren't a match?
You people love percentages.
All OLD. 1/2 were creeps. 1/4- inconsistent and wishy washy, 1/4 not a match
Matches I began talking to that broke out the creep factor nearly immediately ? Roughly 85%
OLD is worse because people don’t know you from a hole in the wall and you are words on a screen. Filters come off and they are much more bold.
Meeting in the wild? There isn’t that much of that these days. But I have done that in the past and people are much more respectful. When you meet people in the wild they are usually associated with a common ground/person and they are more respectful .
So you went out on some dates and had food and drink, had some sex when otherwise you would have been home in your jammies. You found roughly 10-15 guys you are not compatible with.
Think Thomas Edison. 10,000 ways how not to create the lightbulb.
So you went out on some dates and had food and drink, had some sex when otherwise you would have been home in your jammies. You found roughly 10-15 guys you are not compatible with.
Think Thomas Edison. 10,000 ways how not to create the lightbulb.
It's all mindset G-money.
No. That’s not accurate at all.
Some dates were good. I’m not saying that.
It is not worth the level of sexual inappropriateness going on. I would rather be home in my Jammie’s.
The amount of disgustingness to get to a few dates where I had dinner and drinks is not worth it for me
Mind you, I have the most PG profile on all the platforms. I never dress provocatively, i say nothing even slightly flirty on the profile. Across all platforms.
Maybe it is great for other women. But I know many who are encountering what I am now. It’s significantly worse post covid. And it really does make you feel gross
Mind you, I have the most PG profile on all the platforms. I never dress provocatively, i say nothing even slightly flirty on the profile. Across all platforms.
Maybe it is great for other women. But I know many who are encountering what I am now. It’s significantly worse post covid. And it really does make you feel gross
I TOTALLY get what you are saying, G! Some dudes (note I did NOT say ALL dudes) just don't even have a filter when it comes to talking to women. I have said here before that I'm a fat girl and I know I'm not the type most would be attracted to and that is ok because we all have preferences, but I don't know if men just think all fat girls are so desperate that they'll fall for that icky gross behavior or what. When I tried OLD, I had honest pics on my profile that showed me as I really am and I had an honest profile, not flirty or sexual. I got MANY lewd comments and things that guys tried to play off as "just being flirty" but that were truly just downright repulsive. I continue to be thankful and blessed that I stuck with it long enough to find Sparky. He thinks I'm beautiful just as I am, but more importantly, he was very respectful from our very first interaction. He can be flirty and a little inappropriate now because we're together, but he wouldn't have done it before we were a solid couple and I so appreciate that.
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I feel fortunate that I was able to weed most of those guys out before the first date. I don't know if it was the platform (mostly OkCupid, which asks a lot of questions and gives you a compatibility score based upon your answers and theirs - I stuck with the ones that I had a high percentage of compatibility with. That doesn't mean we necessarily would be compatible, but means that we weren't on the opposite sides of the spectrum in terms of religion, politics or kinkiness). Also the profiles were fairly long (there were several prompts) and I could learn a lot from reading the profiles that helped me weed through people. I think some of the newer "swipe right, swipe left" platforms encourage superficial choices and are probably preferred by the creepier guys.
I also, honestly, mostly ended up dating guys that I contacted, rather than vice versa. Not sure if that made me any more successful or not, but the guys I contacted seemed better suited to me than most of the ones who contacted me. (I think men just cast a wider net because they get fewer responses?).
I would say that the vast majority of guys I’ve gone on a date with were decent guys…just not a match for me. The creeps, thankfully, I was able to weed out prior to ever meeting them in person. In my experience, they tend to reveal themselves pretty quickly after you match by what they choose to talk about and what they ask you about yourself or don’t ask you. There needs to be some substance to what they talk about and an interest in who I am as a person. If it’s just me asking questions and never getting a return question or an answer that is more than ten words, I lose interest pretty quickly. But that’s me…other people may have different criteria.
