WOS, I saw you had posted your story over the holidays, and just felt you were already good advice from the board. Keep up the good work so far. Know that many of us know what you are going through and can empathize and relate. When my sitch hit on my BD right before Christmas 4 years ago it was the worst holiday season of my life.
Remember to take care of yourself. Eat healthy, get some exercise, do what you have to in order to sleep (melatonin, benadryl, etc). Self care is usually the first thing to fall off when we are going through stressful time and anxiety is high. If you aren't in IC I STRONGLY encourage it.
Can you tell us something about the big lie, if not the lie itself? Without details? "He spent a large sum of money without telling me." "Or spent the weekend with a exGF." You can give just the gist without the details. Big lies are told by people all the time so if you keep it generic then there is a very small likelihood anyone could connect the dots. BUT only share what you are comfortable with, so if that is nothing about the lie then that is okay too!
Hang in there, it does get better. When we are going through the pain of our sitch it can feel hopeless. Please read the stickies at the top of the forum, the "You will not die" one in particular. It is all going to be ok again one day regardless of the outcome.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
