Yikes. I think I would think the same thing about that guy. WTH is wrong with people?? It’s one thing to roll the dice and decide not to get vaccinated. It’s another thing to then end up in hospital but then have the audacity to treat people that way. Seriously deranged. Pretty sure that guy would be a big risk to others healthy as well.
I don’t blame you for being nervous and scared. It is a scary situation and emotionally taxing, to say the least. You know your limits. There is no shame in recognizing that you may not be up for it and do other work. I’m sure any work you do as a nurse is helping the situation in one way or another.
Good luck on your date. I’d definitely be cautious knowing where he works. The guy who was threatening your colleagues is probably an avid consumer of the “information” they broadcast.
RE: worrying about your move being derailed if things work out. I wouldn’t worry about that too much. Life works in mysterious ways. Your plans could change in many different ways. Trust that things will work out in the end. (((HUGS)))
I’d definitely be cautious knowing where he works.
OMG some of these statements crack me up. Seriously? Because he works for Fox - one if the highest watched networks BTW, that’s just fact backed up by Arbitron ratings. They dominate the ratings. It’s not even close. But moreso, because he simply works there? Do you know what a technical director even does? He runs the video switcher. The director says “ready camera 3, take 3, and insert credits and dissolve to commercial.” He pushes the correct buttons and makes it all happen. He’s a technical geek, a technician, an engineer - but all related to video. He doesn’t write scrips, or create content, or guide policy, or interview people he runs a piece of video equipment- the video switcher. LMAO
Just go and enjoy the date. He’d be the same dude if he worked at MSNBC. 3 years is a long time away. So much can happen. Now if your move was potential in 3 months or like D was graduating this spring, yeah you’d really have to go into anything more serious saying, look, my life plans are to probably move this summer but I would not give it a second thought for as far off as it may be.
This staffing shortage is going to end at some point so I’d say don’t make any moves based on this current window. There’s no way they/we can sustain $300 shift bonuses forever. But if you can tap into it for a little while as it happens, I’d go do it.I’m just not clear what your fear is. Is it the stress of all that’s going on? That’s something to consider as just being short staffed is dropping quality and making customers testy in many jobs. You’re not thinking you can’t handle the patient care because you’re rusty are you? Because I’d take an experienced but rusty nurse any day over a new grad. You can do it. And there are very out of shape and much older nurses still bedside doing fine so if they can handle it you most certainly can.
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I really just made a joke about where he works. He just works for them as a technical director. It’s an employer.
I am admittedly nervous because I feel rusty and it’s peoples lives in my hands, so that gets scary. But I think I could do it. And like you said Don, they are scouring nursing schools for help, so my experience might be preferred.
Currently standing on line in my hospital for free home test kits. Employees get 2 free tests today. Better than pizza
I’ll definitely fill you in on the date. I have no expectations. I am realizing when I go to date someone, the first thing that runs through my mind is it if it does workout, my plans of moving might be derailed. Do I just stay single for the next 3 .5 years? Or I can just let life happen and see where it takes me
I found out today that the floor nurses are making $12 / hr extra plus a $300 shift bonus. I want to take advantage of this, but I’m scared. I’m scared of going back to the bedside after so long. Seriously nervous. I’m also scared that I don’t have enough energy in these bones to do both jobs. I need the money . But I’m absolutely terrified
Plus, there is the covid post I’ve patient who was swinging at the staff, slit at them and made homicidal threats such as “ wait until you are staring down the barrel of my AK -40” and “I’d love to see a bullet in that pretty neck” “you f’ers are crazy if you think you can cure covid” unvaccinated of course. And I said to myself “ maybe he should die “
Can I handle it all? I don’t think I can .
G, because someone is spewing hateful comments is a far step from thinking another human being should die. This shocks and saddens me. This is a human being. His actions are hateful, but he's still a human being. There is always a chance for grace to come in and this man to completely turn his life around. You're better than this, G. So much better than this. I get that you're exhausted, burnt out and scared. Don't lose sight of your or anyone else's humanity.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
It was something that went through my mind initially. It was visceral reaction to his homicidal threats and physically harming staff. Do I really wish death on him? No.
It was something that went through my mind initially. It was visceral reaction to his homicidal threats and physically harming staff. Do I really wish death on him? No.
So it was a fear response. This makes sense because he was out of control (probably also a fear response from him, too). Is there some protocol that when a patient behaves that way or threatens staff the police are called?
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
BTtfly- it was a fear for my coworkers response. His is not a fear response. Sadly, I can tell the difference between the scared, altered due to medical condition, and just an awful human being . He probably falls between the latter two. Went to the ICU today. I don’t wish death on anyone . Sometimes it becomes a natural consequence. It was more like a “ is this what you wanted? Moment? Here ya go! Everyone is completely burnt out. It is worse than the the beginning. The survival rate is better, but the hospitalization rate is worse and there is no one to take care of these people. And everyone has been stretched to the max already.
As far as my date. Not really attracted, nice, but gave me a weird vibe. He thinks I’m amazing ?!! It was an hour and half dinner. I’m not all that amazing. Before the date he was never inappropriate sexually , but did let me know multiple times he found me “very attractive”.
I think someone really needs to wow me now. My heart just isn’t in it. I have went on a record number of dates since June. I really do need to stick to the break I was on. I’m just not feeling it.
D14 was so funny. She new I was going on a date. It almost didn’t happen because of his work, and she said “mom, you really need to go and get out an socialize” have I become a hermit and I don’t even know it? I didn’t want to go tonight and I was telling her I want to stay home in Jammie’s with her and the dog and some people aren’t lucky in love and that is probably me. She says “ you really just need friends, mom, they are so much better”
