I met with the lawyer for a two hour consultation, so I've learned a lot. Though it's good to be informed, it did become clear to me that divorce is "not an easy way out" and nobody really benefits from it. I needed a few hours to process everything and did not sleep well.
I have the DR book, which I'll keep reviewing. My h has been reaching out to me a little bit more, but since none of his messages contained questions I did not reply. Today however, he asked a question :-). The lawyer commented that my h seemed really checked out, which of course I know, but was though to hear nonetheless.
One thing I'm struggling with is how to handle the communication about our son. He is not doing well, so do I let h know (which today I did) or, since my h is not really asking about our son, do I not say anything until he asks. These things used to be so easy and now I don't know what's best anymore :-(.
