I don’t think you being able to hang out with your XH and OW makes you weak at all Ginger. I think your feelings are your feelings and there is no need to judge them. What is the point in that? Feelings of hate and resentment only harm you so why hang onto them? If you hang out with them because your daughter really wants you to AND you enjoy yourself in the process, how is that a problem? It seems to me that it isn’t until you start examining it from a place of how you “should” feel or “should not” feel. According to whom? In my opinion, there are no hard and fast rules other than that we know kids do much better if they see their parents getting along so we don’t want to make them feel like they are caught in the middle. You, my friend, are someone who sets an example for us all in how to best do that.
Anyone who knows your story knows just how incredibly strong you are so please, please, please stop judging yourself on this.
I hope you and D14 have a wonderful New Years Eve!!! (((HUGS)))
