Could use support and advice

[BL42]

WOS,

BL42, thank you for your initial reply and for checking up on me!!

You're welcome. There are a lot of great people on this board who will help. We all understand to a certain extent what you're going through. Keep posting regularly and others will chime in.

According to him, he had done so to be prepared, not to file (partially because he thought I was going to file). He also said he would never file without giving me a heads up first.

Maybe. But you can't necessarily trust what he says at this point.

I still have my own consultation appointment with a lawyer scheduled for tomorrow and I think I might go ahead with it. I have a lot to think about.

Definitely go ahead with it. It's vital you understand you're situation and rights from a legal perspective, especially if your H already retained someone. Make sure you're protecting yourself going forward. Doesn't mean you have to act on anything, but at least understand where you stand. Knowledge = power.

I am trying to do more for myself, but it's proving to be difficult. Prior to my h's departure, we relocated to an area where I have no family or friends. I work full-time (love my job!) and our son requires quite a bit of support, which leaves little time for me. Having said that, he has a great nanny so I'm trying to get out more while she watches him. I'm also attempting to meet people virtually (for now). I've 'planted little seeds' in different places, which will hopefully lead to meeting new people and engaging in new activities. Overall, however, we're quite isolated :-(, something I'm working on.

I'm sure it's challenging living away from family, working full-time, and caring for a special needs child. Remember to make time for self-care too. Good you're trying to get out and planting seeds on meeting people.