Thanks. I often do have to check in with myself and figure out how far I’m coming out of my own comfort zone in order to keep the peace and a good relationship. It does make me spin why I can be OK and comfortable hanging out with them. Something must be wrong with me.

Mario kart has been so much fun! D 14 and I have been playing since she got it. I also took off half of my thumb last night trying to take this thing off her controller. D couldn’t do, ex couldn’t do it, so I tried and I got it off along with half my thumb. I was bleeding all over at their house, lol. Took one for the team.

Writing off people is easy when you don’t have to raise a child from scratch with them. If it was up to me, I would have never looked and spoken to him again and for my sake at that point in my life, I wish he left the both of us. But he only left me, which of course was best for D, but it was not best for me. So when you have to raise a child with 2 other people from infant hood , you can’t write them off. And you do need a good, civil, almost friendly relationship. It’s optimal when you are doing things that long. If she was 10 when this all went down? I probably would have been able to “write them off” in a way.

Everything that happened the way it did was probably the worst for me, but the best for my D. D and I were talking and she said her parents being divorced is all she has ever known and it really doesn’t affect her that much. It’s the only way she has known how to live. She said if this happened when she was 8, it would have been very difficult for her. For me, I’ve been on the struggle bus since the day he left. Parenting a baby alone and working full time with no family help, switching jobs a million times because I had no help, watching my ex and his wife be a family , take my daughter on vacations, marry, stay together since day 1. Never remarrying for many reasons. Everything was harder on me, but easier on my kid with the early on divorce. And that’s all I could want.

I admit, I am so ready for me time in this portion of my life. I’m so ready to make some life decisions based on what’s best for me. Like moving , career, etc. it’s all for my daughter now, but will absolutely be for me when she graduates.
I need this so so bad .