I've been reading on this forum for several months now and recent developments have prompted me to start a thread myself. Brief background: married for almost 15 years, 1 child (special needs). A few years ago my h stated that he wasn't sure whether he wanted to continue to remain in our marriage. We went through mc and he soon decided that he did want to stay. We improved our communication and had a few relatively good years. Then my h went abroad for a year for work and about 3 months in I found out he had lied about something pretty big. He made little to no effort to apologize or repair and basically said our relationship was too broken now and there was nothing left. I asked him if he was willing to not make any big decisions while abroad, but he didn't really respond to that. Ever since then I have stopped contacting him and he has been the one that reaches out (though it's minimal). When he reaches out, he's pleasant.
Yesterday I found out that he retained a divorce lawyer a month ago. I let him know that I found out and that, though I want to remain married, I would not stand in his way. I added that I understand he must be fed up. He responded by saying that we can talk about it tonight.
I wonder how to approach our talk tonight (if it happens) and would love some advice. There is also a good change that he'll cancel, reschedule, or just dissapear (This has been a pattern these past few months). What do I do then?
I welcome any and all support and advice I can get, this is so incredibly difficult.
