I don't think that you should have to be a "Stepford Wife" for your h to be happy with your situation. From what I understand, he wanted a stay at home wife and now he's bitching about that? You can't ask for one thing and expect another, but that is what you are dealing with again.
I think that the advice about getting at least a part time job might be a good thing to do. It will give you some independence, some financial freedom and a change for you to have some interactions with adults.
I know that you have really struggled throughout this whole situation, with more tenacity of most. Take a breather and see what you want before making any big decisions.
