Please, for yourself and your M, please get Dr. Laura's book--Care and Feeding of Husbands.
Men are just DIFFERENT. Men are from Mars explains it, too, but there is a unique quality in Dr. Laura's book.
Basically, do you really think this would be different with some other guy? What about YOUR role in all of this! YES! YOU HAVE A ROLE IN ALL OF THIS!!
I was almost a WAW myself until I got this book. Now I'm desparately trying to save my M. My H is NOT the oger I thought. I played HUGE role in our unhappiness. I realize that now.