I'm side stepping some of the implications of left leaning political views because honestly it's not pertinent to your question that's buried in there. I'd suggest you see CW's explanation of tolerant. But I'll leave you with what I do know.
I was in a cross political relationship with my exH for a very long time. This is what I learned: -I will never have an intimate relationship with a one issue voter. They are either weak minded or myopic and I have no taste for either. -I will never have any kind of relationship with a person who is incapable of empathy again. -I will never have any kind of a relationship with a person who changes their mind on a dime when something personally affects them again. -And I will never attempt to build and sustain a relationship with a person whose values, world view, life experiences, and concept of rights is in complete opposition to mine ever again.
Can I be cordial and friendly with people with opposing views? Absolutely. I worked in customer service for years. I even maintained friendships for a long time with people with opposing views. They are probably the only people I can have constructive political conversations with. But I will never have a cross political romantic relationship again nor would I recommend it for anyone.
It's exhausting. It's exhausting to never talk about those things. It's exhausting to talk about those things. It's exhausting to bicker over things that aren't overtly political but have an undertone so you have differing opinions. It's exhausting to keep your mouth shut when they say things you don't agree with. It's exhausting to try to steer the conversation in a different direction when it does come up. It's exhausting to have to apologize for your significant other when sticky topics come up in a group of people. It's exhausting to maintain a relationship with a person who you can't have any conversations with depth because there's no way to avoid your belief systems and values if you really want deep conversation. It's exhausting trying to develop a deep connection or become emotionally intimate with a person you can't have real deep conversations with. It's exhausting to spend day after day after day with a person who has absolutely nothing in common with you when you break it down to the most fundamental things in your belief system. You may like the same hobbies or music or films or beer or who knows but it's never enough to build the kind of bond you need to make it for the long haul.
My exH has gone full on Q nut job in the last 6ish years, like JFK jr. levels. And I will say I attribute that to his newest gf have no strong opinions of her own. She is the first and only woman he's ever been with that wasn't deeply liberal. So maybe there is an argument for cross political relationships, but I can't do it and I wouldn't recommend it.
