A year on and standing 2

[SteveLW]

ToSmile, sounds like you have an overall plan. Great! That is the key. You will feel much more settled with a plan in place.

As far as talking to people, especially her family? I say avoid it like the plague. This is between you and her. Not you and her family, or her and your family. It is nobody's business. A short answer to shortcut it it like "We are working through these things." "I am not comfortable discussing with you." Etc. Again, have a plan but I say that plan should be to NOT get into the details at all.