A year on and standing 2

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Guys,

Thanks for your comments.

I am actually looking at disposing the house in the open market because it will fetch profit and cash proceeds that I would need to furnish and fit my new place when I am going to get one.

At where I am, people actually paid cash over the valuation of residence and that comes handy as a new place gonna cost me another 50 to 70 grand to do up. If I only allow her to buy over my share in loan, I would be starting off with 0 cash proceeds. The house was bought through the loan of something like the 401k account and upon disposal, the proceeds will have to go back to the account.

Thus the decision to do that than just transfer my loan portion to her is not to control but I need the cash to move on easier.

Our joint joint counsellor called me earlier. She mentioned that she had spoken with my wife and my wife mentioned to her that she will asked me out to talk on the proceedings. I expected that it will not be something smooth as it come to this because as far her proposal had been to her benefits and convenience. However, I will talk everything business. My needs, my children needs when we walk away from what we built up over the years. The counsellor offered to be the mediator if we need to settle the terms and offered support services for the kids when they go through it.

If from the talk she delays still, I will prep myself on setting the date and do it. I had in fact already spoken to a lawyer and found out the charges and shared with him some documents and details. Will be just a matter of a phone call to activate the proceeding.

I can foresee the mess that is to come with it. Her family especially her mum will come and ask me what's wrong and isn't everything fine all those things all over again. I am thinking should I avoid them totally or just tell them the truth of what had actually transpired? After all, it's her family?