WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Divorced Anyway (5)

[Dawn70]

While I agree with what you said, Ginger, I have (sadly) seen the other side of it. My xh's first xw was a real piece of work. We paid her nearly $700 a month (which honestly is NOT a lot when you are looking at raising 3 teenage girls), but we also were the ones who carried the financial burden of school clothes, school expenses, vehicle issues, etc. while xw worked full time, lived in a house paid for by her parents, drove a truck paid for by her parents, had a cell phone paid for by her parents, parents paid her utilities and my xh insisted that WE pay her satellite tv bill so the girls could have satellite tv at her house. What did she pay? Well, her boyfriend at the time had a job where he would travel to a job site in some random state and be there for x number of weeks or months til the job was done, so she used her salary and our child support money to travel to wherever he was every weekend. I wouldn't have even had a problem with that, IF the girls had gone with her, but guess what...the girls got left at our house most weekends. Occasionally she would leave them with her parents. She rarely bought any groceries because the girls always ate at our house or she sponged off people who would take her and the girls out and buy them dinner. Granted, though she worked full time, she barely made above minimum wage, but she paid literally NO bills. Her parents paid everything but her satellite bill, which we paid. Their divorce decree had my xh responsible for the full cost of the girls' medical and dental insurance and any bills over and above insurance were supposed to be split 50/50. We paid our 50%, but guess who paid hers...yep, her parents. So, literally, her only expenses were gas and groceries, but she probably didn't spend $20 a week on groceries. So, she was bringing in probably somewhere in the neighborhood of $200-$2500 a month with her only expense being $50 ish per week in gas to go back and forth to work. I'd like for someone to cut me that kind of deal.

Having said ALL that (sorry for the hijack, by the way, BL), I do think that our situation was an exception and not the rule. I think many single moms do the right thing. I just happened to be privy to one of the situations where that wasn't the case because my girls' mom is a money grubbing h0e.