Of course she’s made purchases not related to the kids in the past year. When someone receives child support it doesn’t mean they aren’t allowed to buy a nice pair of shoes, get their hair done, but a nice new air fryer. I don’t understand the assumption when someone receives child support they should just be living very basically with no extras j less they are for the kids. Does that really make any sense? Child support goes into the cost of the home and bills, Clothes, food, etc. it’s not just to buy kids stuff directly. She works, so she can buy herself stuff as long as the kids are taken care of, there is a roof over their head, food on the table, etc. it’s an even split pretty much to even out the household disparity because 2 houses are being supported for kids as opposed to one. Your collective money was going into one house, now separate money goes into 2 .
Look, I get a pittance for child support. I make more money, but I have way more time so I get a drop. I am supporting a household in a state you know is insanity. My ex has 2 incomes to go into his house. They have a Hilton timeshare and take nice vacations twice a year, which they do take my D on, they spent a lot on Christmas, I really didn’t have much money this year. I haven’t taken my D on a vacation in years because I can’t afford it. I also put out a heck of a lot more money because she’s with me most of the time. I buy what she needs. Give her money for school stuff, the mall, activities with friends…. My $88/week I’m child support barely covers that.
It stinks. It stinks big time, I get it. But you have to just know that the money is for the children and not her. And if she narrows the gap and gets raises or a better job, well, your payments will be less if your salary doesn’t make much of a change.
I understand where you are coming from. No one wants to see their ex sitting pretty while you yourself struggles. But just know the child support isn’t so she can go buy her self designer handbags
