Another day in the life of

[BL42]

Ginger1,

BL! Are you a neighbor? I was “barefoot” in the sand and it was a “wild” time! And definitely between 2 piers on the beach.

No clue on the neighbor front, but we were almost certainly “barefoot” and enjoying the same tunes this August! Small world. In fact, I've had a "wild" time nearly every Summer of my life and many of relatives worked on those piers.

I think "normal" (I use that word loosely since what is "normal", right?) men like yourself, LH, really don't understand because you just would never even think to behave as inappropriately online as some other men do. Sadly, it is far more common than some men realize because there are just those weirdos who say whatever as though they are just talking to a computer and not an actual person on the other end. I can't count the number of men I blocked because they were just downright lewd and disgusting in a very short time of saying hello in chat. I can totally see why women think OLD can be disheartening.

There's a scene in a raunchy teen comedy from two decades ago called Road Trip in which there's a super creepy random guy on the bus and the female character yells out "Are there any guys out there who are just NORMAL? Huh?" to get him to back away. Pretty funny in the scene; I'm sure not so much in real life. I guess I'm as surprise as LH at how prevalent women's experiencing in this area seems to be. Blows my mind.

I am definitely attracted to guys with drive, self confidence but not cockiness, ( I hate big egos) someone funny and and empathetic and strong yet vulnerable.

Confidence is perhaps the #1 attractive trait discussed on the dating / self help resources which Ready2Change and others have suggested on these forums.

This particular guy who seems to not be able to let go is just a situation where he talks about how amazing I am, but he doesn’t even know me. He talks mostly about himself, is oddly obsessed with the fact I have a career and I’m a nurse. But he doesn’t know ME.

This also seems to be a common theme. Women turned off by men coming on strong and falling too quickly because they feel the guy doesn't even know them that well yet. My theory is it's often just the guy just wanting to make a connection and perhaps if given more time it might develop, but seems to have the opposite effect.

Not sure I have much advice, but do appreciate you sharing on the topic...it's good to hear the female perspective on the dating front.