But how do you date if someone doesn’t make time for you?
I have a full life. A job and a half, a child, hobbies, a full social life. But it’s a given I’m Not going to fit perfectly into someone’s life, and they are not going to fit perfectly into mine. So if the goals are similar: an eventual partner, doesn’t there need to to be some sort of give and take ?
I know a future partner is something I place value on cultivating and it has to start somewhere, so I want to put effort and compromise into it, no matter how busy and full my life is. I Am a very good GAL. But if there isn’t give in take, it’s just will never happen.
Sadly, the last guy I was committed to, even when we were committed, expected me to fit into his life. As if I didn’t have one. Which I really do. We all have responsibilities. Children. Jobs, houses chores, Friends, commitments. I surely do.
I don’t expect anyone to make me a priority early on. But if someone really wAnts to date, they have to put the actual dating on the priority list. That would be a GAL activity .Don’t put me on the priority list. Put the dating there. If a future relationship is important to them, they will do that. It’s important to me, so I make sure dating is something I can fit in which I know requires flexibility and compromise . And I choose to make that a part of my GAL because of what I truly want .
The sexual nature and intimacy is developed through emotional connection for women. And if a man doesn’t care to foster it, and just wants the sexual portion because he is too busy Gal, well, then I really don’t know what to say
Look at LH. His GF wants him to give more emotionally. but she can’t give him what he needs to to foster that connection .
I respect you very much MLCx. Very much. But I have a full life too. Just like these full lives of men in my demographic. But I’m not understanding why I will have to make room in my life for them, but they shouldn’t have to make room in their lives for me? I’m not really grasping that
