And there's also a substantial number who are just quietly living their lives and are accepting / embracing being single.
Oh and Andrew follows up MLC’s home run with a huge hit of his own! I could have actually should have made this point myself but I’m happy to just reinforce it. I could name off dozens that I just personally know that fit this category. There are many more than people might think.
Great point! In addition to those that are accepting/embracing being single, there are many others who would like to be in a relationship but are not actively searching, especially on OLD apps.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
Sure , it should be. But men really don’t know what women go through. How it can be scary .
#NotAllMen Unfortunately, it appears that there are a lot of creeps out there which is a real shame.
Originally Posted by Ginger1
And yea, my demographic is a bunch of men who are finally free of marriage and compromise and partners ( not necessarily taking care of their wives, I feel like more wives take care of their H’s TBH)
In most circumstances, the people in your demographic have full lives with sufficient GAL - especially the emotionally stable guys. Once the relationship is stable and has progressed to the next level, they will make you a priority but in the early stages you will have to work to make room in their lives for you
Originally Posted by Ginger1
These men want to take it all and give not much because they have swung to the other extreme of being free. Many came from sexless marriages abs that’s all on their minds now. Sex and crazy sex and all the sex they can get . No one wants to make time anymore, they want someone to slide right into their available time. And with OLD and “next” culture, a lot of guys just move on when someone doesn’t fit right into their “very busy important” lives ( because mine isn’t)
This may be true with many of the people you end up with on OLD and some in IRL too. However, for many good men this is an incorrect generalization. The reason emotionally strong men won't make time for you in because they have full lives and you are not a priority - YET. If these men can take care of their emotional needs themselves, the balance of emotional Vs physical needs they need their partner to fulfill skews towards the latter. Hence, in the initial stages their focus may very well be more on the sexual aspect of the relationship until you become a priority and are more emotionally vested in their lives. It often has nothing to do with their sexless marriages or their marriage in general. If the person is not emotionally strong then they will make you a priority sooner but you will likely not be attracted to them. You can see many examples of these sort of men right in this forum.
Perhaps this is the root of your dating problems. Think a little about whether you are expecting people to make you a priority too early in a relationship. Oh, and try to do a better job of screening out the creeps with more targeted questions in chat and before doing on a date with them
Unfortunately, it appears that there are a lot of creeps out there which is a real shame.
