Because I love to tell my stories and because I’m home on LOA and bored, I’ll tell it
I went back to maiden name. I didn’t want to share it with his AP. I got my ex to agree to hyphenate our daughters name, but I didn’t go through with it.
For Christmas , my dad and his wife are getting my daughter a jersey of our favorite hockey team. I told him to only do a number ( her birth day and one of the top players on the team ) but they needed a name too. So I told him to put her last name on it ( my ex’s last name, obviously) . My dad in his usual unreasonable sensitive manner gets insulted because it’s HIS name. I corrected this one and said , “no, that’s her name, and she shouldn’t feel bad about what her last name is” he apologized quickly on this one.
Your kids have your last name and they are a part of her family. She shouldn’t have to give up her last which is her kids last name. Her kids are her family and she shouldn’t have to extricate from that part.
And even though I changed my name back and my ex hasn’t even been involved with her schooling, everyone has called me Mrs . ( daughters last name) anyways
