This is so helpful. I’m very grateful that I have this place to come to for advice and to share. Thank you.
So… what do I do when she comes at me straight with what is basically, “where do you see this going, now that I’ve drawn a line in the sand?” Her approach is saying, this makes me uncomfortable not knowing. Tell me what you’re planning.
How do I deflect that, while still validating? I don’t lie well, never have. So if she says “I feel awful tell me where our marriage is going,” and I respond with “I’m sorry that you feel awful,” I’ve completely ignored her question and she will press it. Thoughts? Eventually she turns angry and finds an answer, even if “you’re being evasive so I guess we can clearly see what your answer is.”
