And to continue: as far as OLD being dehumanizing . It absolutely can be. This was admitted by people who literally say they forget there is a human behind the profile or words in a chat on a screen. It’s easy to dispose of or disrespect or break out the weird sexual stuff pretty fast because they literally forget there is a living breathing human on the other end. On the pod cast a woman ended up meeting this guy who acted like a weirdo and not so respectful in OLD and then she met him in the wild a year later by chance and realized it was the dude she was talking to from OLD. She said he was totally different in person, he was kind and cool. And she asked him why he was an ass when they were chatting and he admitted to not treating those words or profile like their was a human on the other end.
Just like your experience Deja. And I’m sorry you are encountering what I am, but I guess I know I’m not crazy in my feelings. People are just so flakey. And I just have went numb. I felt a little twinge of excitement with the other guy because I thought it might be one of those nice slow get to know eachother builds. I like that. But it’s rare these days . He did give me very strong midlife crisis vibes, but not in a bad way. But you definitely could tell he was just exploring . Still figuring life out with an empty nest. I think if I ever get the chance to meet someone organically I’ll do much better. I always have done much better that way.
Bttfly : hugs and lots of them you are an incredible woman . Superwoman really. I know you carry a lot of weight alone on your shoulders and you carry it well, but I know it gets heavy.
I’m doing great in my recovery. I could probably go back to work, but I’m not going to! I did even workout while D was at swim, and I felt good, but I might have over done it, I’m a little sore today. But I’m ready to get super active again once I’m totally healed and really embrace some of the hobbies I want to, most of them outdoors. I’ve been cleaning out and organizing every inch of my house. My house is small with 2 closets and it presents a challenge. But these days, I’m much better at throwing nearly everything away
