Since last week, STBXW has indeed reached out a bit. Once at school to ask advice about her new pay scale. Although I have asked her to respect boundaries, it was very much a school matter so I treated the conversation as a professional.
Not sure this really qualifies as a professional matter you have to respond to as much as a request for personal advice with work and pay and benefits? I assume she could've asked the same question to any number of your fellow teachers or administrators? If it's part of your job to help out with a work/classroom assignment that's one thing, but if she's asking about her own personal salary or benefits it seems like she's using you a bit. Don't be her crutch.
Originally Posted by Magnhild
I must admit, at one point, I did jokingly ask her if I stank of alcohol. A dig? Maybe, but it was done in a very jovial way. That part wasn't very professional, but she did laugh.
Not sure about this one. Maybe if it really was humorous, but not sure you want to be making light about the drinking she objected to. Understand it was a reference to last time you interacted, but still...
Originally Posted by Magnhild
She also texted to offer money for a cat bill. Poor thing had an ingrown nail. The cat, not the STBXW. He's 18 and been around longer than she has. I thanked her for the offer, but I don't mind covering it. At least there has been some communication.
Good job. A quick "No thanks" suffices here.
Originally Posted by Magnhild
Instead I've got tickets for what seems like a fabulous modern dance production, so I'm sure I'll have fun instead.
Sounds great. Enjoy! If she asks about it just say "Oh, I have other plans..." and smile
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
