Another day in the life of

[DonH]

I began listening to to this new podcast called dating deeply, and it really explains how OLD can be dehumanizing. It really has become that way. Even with texting even after you meet. People forget there is a real life human behind the screen.

Don’t want to be an I told you so (although I do enjoy it from time to time - ha!) but I’ve been beating the drum about this for years now. It’s totally dehumanizing! Felt way worse than not doing it at all. And it clearly is getting worse - but so is our world. Sure OLD may introduce you to more people but what quality and at what personal cost?

As for this latest guy, it’s totally him and not you. He’s being honest there. But what had you so attracted? Was it his looks? Cuz I’m kinda thinking that was a sizable part of it. And as for saying that you’re just attracting guys who don’t see the interest. Well then, how do you explain the guy begging to see you? He seems EXTREMELY interested. But you’re not. Again is looks part of it? And I’m not throwing stones here as I’m very much adapt at dating above my league.

Changing locations could help with some things but with finding a good guy? What, you’ve dated through all of them in Jersey and NY? Lol. C’mon.

I clearly don’t have the answer but would have to say the guys you’re picking and the way you are interacting is likely part if the equation - for both of us - given how long we’ve both been single. But it’s also just single people in our age range. I just had someone reach out to me saying let’s get together - in part after a recent somewhat traumatic personal life event. I responded warmly and told her I’d love to. Saw her in person a week later where she again made sure I call her and we’ll make plans. She was the “aggressor” for lack of a better word both times. So after thanksgiving, as I promised, I reach out to set something up. And… crickets. And I know her IRL. I will see her again eventually. Perhaps there’s an explanation but so far it’s evidently like let’s have lunch, or the checks in the mail, or I won’t a’hem in your… just words? Just what people say - if you need anything, don’t hesitate to let me know. To which you say, you know what I could use is… and oh, um, well let me see, Im pretty busy.

People just suck Ginger. They just do. Not everyone but just like finding a partner, finding true friends can be just as hard. I wish I had the answer. At least for now I’m nearly positive OLD is not it. And as I started to say, it’s just gotten worse. It’s become second nature to lie and ghost and treat people poorly. One minute it’s, can’t wait for Friday dinner (or let’s get together and meet for drinks or something) and the next they are off onto something or someone else. The great ones… are still married.