I think I stated to you, and if I haven’t I am now, I will always give you the best advice I can and it will be for you.
My suggestion is to just to continue the minutes earlier teacher/parent conference regarding son. Just a few sentences to get to the door. A way to foster a cordial relationship and remove the awkwardness of a long silent walk. That’s for you. It will also help son. And yes, even XW will be influenced by such a gesture. It may even help her, which will also pay dividends to the people the advice is mainly for - you and kids.
On a personal note, I detest the idea of blended families. That is a magical Hollywood fantasy. Blech! I ain’t anywhere close to suggesting you and XW sing Kumbaya all together.
(My XW had her fantasy all laid out and explained as she was literally packing and leaving with OM out the door - we’d share blended Christmases and in the summer all drink mojitos on my deck. Lol. Such confusion.)
However, you and the kids definitely should sing Kumbaya! And I mean that literally. We’ve had many great campfires and continued them sans Mom.
You are doing great BL. Have a wonderful weekend.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
