WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Divorced Anyway (5)

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LH,

Lol. Yeah “are you single again” definitely not smooth. The indirect approach of just commenting about something on her social media page was the way to go here. If she was interested she would then put herself in your orbit somehow. Oh well lesson learned.

Not smooth at all lol. I need to flex my flirting muscles a bit more after a decade.

Ginger1,

Shockingly enough, transitions are fine at that age. Their surroundings don’t matter as much as wanting to be able to see their parents. A week is an eternity in little kid world not see one of their parents. And the dinners are kind of a tease for them. And yes, my daughter did a lot better with exchanges done at school. Going from one parent to another was really tough on her at a young age.

Thanks for the advice on the schedules/transitions. Definitely food for thought. I'll certainly be monitoring and working with ExW to adjust if needed.

DnJ,

Indifference, letting go, ego, acceptance, forgiveness - different facets all working together. The goal is to face your situation and become healed and healthy and strong and confident, so it no longer hurts. You control you. You influence you.

In my view, you are doing quite well. A good ways along that path. Continue working through your feelings regarding OM2 and let them go. Rationalize your triggers and responses.

Always deep and insightful posts. I appreciate the thoughts on my emotions and OM2. Definitely an area for me to work on. I've notice how much you post on threads on all the various boards, and read through the start of your story last night. What an incredibly surreal and confusing BD compared to almost any other sitch on here...and that's saying a lot around here! A couple things resonated with me already I plan to read through your entire sitch and comment soon, if I can find the time.