It's up to you whether to stand for keeping your family together or to throw your hands up and move on. Another poster here points out, at one point she wasn't determined to marry you, and then she was. She's determined to move on now, but that's not necessarily a permanent state. There are several success stories here.
Have you decided not to stand? That would affect our advice.
It would seem this is where I'm stuck. I need to read up more on the term "Stand". Nothing will change in my situation any time soon (meaning 1-2 years). So although I want nothing more than to reconcile, I realize it won't happen any time soon. At the same time, like I said in a previous post, I'm just flat out lonely, I have a lot of family and friends, but i miss having a family and someone to talk, joke, cook and just have fun with. Honestly, am I being pathetic or is this reasonable?
Originally Posted by CWarrior
100% of us recommended against nesting if you want to save your marriage, including May22.
It is under your control to say, "No, I am not leaving." and then not leave.
This is what I will do. Thanks.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
If you mean "Constanza's Rules", of course not, why would she? Wayfarer put it nicely, "Do you tell a roommate when they can come and go? Do you tell them who they can and can't spend time with? Do you worry about what your roommate ate for dinner? Or who they ate it with? No you don't. Because you're not their keeper, or their parent. "
