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[LH19]

I never met a L who wasn’t arrogant. If we aren’t. We get steamrolled. Anger? Really? Because R2 made a cutting remark?

No. You mentioned it a couple times in your thread.

I also want to work on any anger issues I have. I could be quick to anger on perceived slights.

It’s a trying time for me. I do tend to see jab and anger was a normal way of expressing myself growing up. But while we yelled, we also quickly moved on. I did talk to my IC about the anger thing.

I agree, but I am not sure he has what it takes to do this

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I’m not seeing anything other than a jab at me. I could be wrong.

You are wrong. Most LBS have difficult implementing DB because it goes against everything they want to do. They want to pursue and try to fix things by showing off there "changes". I use changes in quotes because they are not real RIGHT NOW and these changes are usually either not believed or pi$$ the WS spouse anyway. The hard thing to do is to politely decline the offer and go out at do something fun.

I'm inclined to follow what May22 says. To put it bluntly, she's a woman and I think many guys don't know jack about women.

Could it be that you are going to follow May22 because she suggested to do what you are dying to do? Look I do agree that men in general have a tough time understanding women. But you are dealing with a WAW/WW which is a completely different animal. Timing is everything in these situations and IMO the longer this drags on, the weaker your position becomes. You will compromise, make yourself smaller, trying to meet her needs and then she'll walk all over you.

Joseph, Bent, BL lets cut Mac some slack as you know this is really difficult especially when the advice varies.