She said she broke down and cried due to her stuff being on being outside on the verandah. Made mention that "we" ...the boys and me need to realise that it was not AP that broke up the family, that it was her. That she still loves me but couldn't continue the way it was. Not sure if that meant the drinking or the 2 months of anger and arguments post her getting caught in the affair.
In the meantime I have been out a few times and let my sons fend for themselves.
I have not contacted her other than when she sent me a text saying "sorry I didn't realise it was you I passed in the car this morning. Have a nice day". I did respond with "thanks, you too". Probably wrong as it was a meaningless interaction.