So Mac daddy I am getting a sense from your posts some arrogance and now apparently anger issues. So again this is possibly what this is all about that your w just needs a break from you. You remind me of a poster RR17 who was also a lawyer.
The truth be told you can have dinner not have dinner it doesn’t really matter in the long run. If she left to have an affair then there is really nothing you can do until the affair ends. If she’s taking a break then odds are she’s coming back when she’s ready.
Make the changes you want to make for yourself and your children and the rest will work itself out.
Making yourself scarce and being busy is your best bet right now.