Doesn't DB talk about your changes? I'm not eagerly waiting to show of my changes.
I feel like the advice is all over the map here.
There are advocates for slightly "softer" and "harder" approaches--but on many points it's cohesive. The goal is to make changes for YOU. In your previous post where you wrote, "I'm torn. I would like to see her and want her to show I'm changing." Been there, done that. Changes made to win someone back tend to be more temporary and tend to generate resentment. So, I'm pointing it out. So you follow the best possible track. The smallest, consistent changes are more meaningful than grand shows that fall apart with anger as soon as her applause doesn't materialize or goes away.
If there's a point where there seems to be disagreement, just ask. (:
