I find myself getting hung up on the small things too. Like she said at one point that "we were taking a big risk doing this." I really wanted to follow up an ask her what she meant. 'I just said agreed with her.
I don't see her taking a big risk--you're eagerly waiting to show off changes you're making for her to appreciate. She can cancel the separation for as long as you're delighted for her to return. She's currently in the power position and checking in 2-3x this week.
Doesn't DB talk about your changes? I'm not eagerly waiting to show of my changes. You act like I'm sitting by the door just waiting. Not the case. I'm trying to live my life. I'm working on them regardless if she comes over 3x week or No times a week.
She knows that she is risking me deciding not to be married anymore. I've made that clear.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Originally Posted by McRamone
given that you wanted some space, I don't think it's a good idea to keep coming over here."
I would nix this. If she wanted space on that evening, she wouldn't be asking to come over. It's not your job to enforce her reasons for a separation you don't want and don't support. Does her coming over Wednesday and/or Sunday work for you? Make choices and express them.
Thanks for the insight. I feel like the advice is all over the map here.
