[/quote]So there is where I don't get it. I can't make her FEEL anything. I can only control what I can do. correct? I'm certainly not going to date or meet women in bars. This feels manipulative. Maybe someone can correct me.[/quote]

In other words, you can influence how she feels about you by focusing on yourself and your personal growth.

I never said meet up with or date women. I said become a man only a fool would leave. Women are attracted to men like that, your wife included. Think James Bond.

You have to let her go to get her back.