Costanza, sorry, I know that this not what you wanted. Maybe the physical separation will be better than the IHS. Maybe it won't. Everyone is different, what works for one doesn't work for everyone. Just be aware that sometimes people think physical separation will be better and are shocked when they struggle just as much.
I'm not a fan of nesting but if you're sure it will be only for a short time then maybe it can work. Most people find that the WAS/WS will milk the nesting arrangement and then 2 years goes by and they're still doing it. So I'd only agree to it for as short of a period of time as possible.
On the dating, yes you do not date for all those reasons and more. You can't possibly be ready to be in an R with someone new. It is possible to be celibate until you are in another relationship. It won't kill you. Use this time to deal with the emotional baggage from the end of your marriage, become the best version of yourself you can be. When the time is right you'll find someone new. Lots of LBSs have shortcut this by dating right away only to wind up back in the same spot with someone new shortly down line.
Last edited by SteveLW; 11/16/2105:37 PM.
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