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[LH19]

So there is where I don't get it. I can't make her FEEL anything. I can only control what I can do. correct?

Yes and no. If you are out living it up she may feel like she is losing you.

So I think this proves what happened to Thornton. We think they are all happy and excited to start a new chapter without us, but in reality it's hard for them.

This isn't hard for her at all. She knows she can come running home whenever she wants.

I'm trying to work on my empathy with how she's feeling.

Don't waste a second with empathy.

I find myself getting hung up on the small things too. Like she said at one point that "we were taking a big risk doing this." I really wanted to follow up an ask her what she meant. 'I just said agreed with her.

How is it a risk? She loves you and wants to be with you and will be home in three months.

She also wants to take a tv and a gaming system to her place on Saturday. Then she said they hooked her internet up. At first I was upset because in my mind you don't get a internet contract if you are going to be away for only 3 months, but then I realized in this day and age it's almost impossible to operate without internet at your home. Mind you she saw NONE of this.

I'll be shocked if it's 3 months. Who moves out for three months right before Christmas?

1- So later on, she talks about how she's coming over to cook dinner on Wednesday. Then she talked about coming over on Saturday. I want to say this to her but wanted to run it by the people here.

1-"if you want to take the kids and have dinner at your place let me know" However, given that you wanted some space, I don't think it's a good idea to keep coming over here." Thoughts?

How about Can I drop the kids at your place Wednesday? I have plans.

Admittedly, I'm torn. I would like see her and want her to show I'm changing. But really defeats the point of her moving and I think it could cause me problems.

What changes?

She was also way more touchy than normal. She grabbed my hand at the table when she was talking to me. When she left, she gave me a hug, a kiss and said ILY.

She's excited. A 3 month plus vacation from reality.

2- I don't know how to respond. Do I say ILY back when she says it? Do I say nothing? I don't go seeking out hugs/kisses, but I don't want to give her the Heisman- arm straight out BOOM.

Sure say it back if that's how you feel. Feelings are fleeting as DNJ likes to say.