My advise was to stop contact with your old flame because you wanted to fix your marriage. I don’t see how you can fix your marriage if you are dating other woman.
You can’t control anyone except yourself. If you want to set boundaries that’s fine, but you can’t force her to not cross them. And what’s the plan when she does? You could ask her to leave, but again since you can’t control her she doesn’t have too.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
