Did anything besides the affair kill your confidence? Where you losing it prior to all this?
It is hard to dismiss it, but believe her actions over her words every time. My ex did the same thing while living with her paramour.
It’s possible she’s being genuine on some level. It’s also possible she’s keeping you on the line in case whatever plan she has doesn’t work out.
I also would look into your states laws about alimony. Here where I am, if you have an affair and leave you aren’t entitled to alimony. However if you even attempt to fix the marriage and than back out there’s an argument to be made the marriage failed for another reason and you could be on the hook for it. Just keep that in mind and look into whatever laws you need to, or ask your lawyer.
Please keep posting too. And feel free to maybe start journaling here too. Tells us more about you getting a life and enjoying yourself.
My confidence was probably close to an all time high right before it happened. I mean. Job was going well, etc. however, I do have confidence issues around my teeth. They aren’t in great shape.
She seems genuine but that and a quarter will buy you a gum ball. There is zero plan with the guy. For reasons, I’m not ready to discuss yet.
Not worried about Alimony really. She makes about 5k more than I.
I’m tired from today. Tonight both my hockey team and CFB team play at the same time. Might go to the sports bar.
