New here.

[Ready2Change]

You get lots of different advice on this board. Some people give cookie cutter advice based on MWD's book. I tend to give advice based on the situation.

LH19 has a great skill at remembering all the details about a poster.

I tend to remember the big picture items like : You are new here and on moderation. You are the lawyer about my age. Your W is in the mental health field. You have two children, but did not tell us their ages or what the parenting arrangements will look like. Your wife is moving out. You want to attract her back. You don't know how.

I then focus on the things that stands out to me in the last post.

So here, the words in bold stand out to me as areas you can reflect on and give my 2 cents:

I do sense that I am being hammered by the MC and my wife more than she is. We tend to talk about what I'm doing wrong because I have been resistant to the ideas.

Are you doing something wrong? Or maybe that is just her opinion. Why are you resistant? Maybe resistance is the proper thing.

In her mind, she's committed and is making changes. But they aren't always in a way that I see them. Then she gets frustrated.

Sounds Like you are a good listener and understand how she is feeling at that moment. In your mind is it OK for her to be frustrated? Do you accept her frustration?