What if she wants to talk...which she does. Just say no. Same goes for the separation. I guess
If she wants to talk, say no?! That would be AGGRESSIVE--controlling her. If she wants to talk, let her. There's a thread here on active listening and validation. There's also a short video by Brene Brown on Empathy. These are great ways to build rapport. "I get you're angry about that." "I understand you'd like to continue to see the dog even after we separate." She probably does this all day as a therapist, lol. Skip making any commitments or emoting. You can do that another day when you're well-rested and have had time to reflect on what she's said and perhaps pass it by the board if you're uncertain.
Originally Posted by McRamone
She's separating NOT Divorcing. I know everyone here sees a nail, but this situation is entirely different.
I don't see a nail at all. My situation (separated long-term GF) and Steve's situation (wife) both ended in reconciliation. Setting healthy boundaries and self-differentiation were important steps.
