Just journal and doing reading. I wrote a long post but it got deleted.
For GAL, I do yoga 2X week, I ride my bike 3X week, I enjoy cooking as a hobby, I regularly get out of the house by myself to go shopping, etc. I just ordered a new treadmill. I am a runner and have done 7 marathons so this isn't new, but had to get rid of my old one a few years ago. I regularly go to concerts with family, friends or by myself. I love live music...in fact my screen name is for my favorite band. I'm teaching my old how to drive and play video games with my youngest. I'm not spiritual so church isn't really my thang.
Looking at the 37 rules/ I'm doing pretty good on a lot of them.
some I'm confused and I'm confused
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5. Don't talk about the future.
I do need information as is relates to finances.
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8. Do not buy gifts to make "brownie points".
- I bought her something for her BDay and flowers (from our sons), I also got flowers on Anniversary. XMAS seems like a trap.
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9. Do not schedule dates together at this point. (That is pursuing.) Save for later when the R is much better. -
what if she wants to schedule dates? Say no?
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11. Do not say "I Love You" (It is being "pushy" and trying to make your spouse say it back to you......he/she will despise you for it.)
- she says she loves me way more that I say it back to her. Do I pull a Han Solo and say "I know." How to respond?
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20. All questions about marriage should be put on hold, until your spouse wants to talk about it (which may be a while)
so this takes patient on your behalf. What if she wants to talk...which she does. Just say no. Same goes for the separation. I guess
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23. Do not argue about how your spouse feels about something (it only makes his/her feelings more negative.) Only they know how they feel!
- this is what I was talking about the privacy thing.
