I know I'm on moderation and it's no fun. LH, Steve, BL, CW thanks for the kinds words and taking time.
I feel like message are crossing but a few more thoughts.
1st, I don't know why but I didn't get the confirmation email from DBsite to my email. I hope that doesn't mean my account will be cancelled. I checked the junk mail too - nada.
I am confused. Many people have said that I can't tell my wife not to move or or tell her to move out. But wouldn't the same also apply to parameters on living apart? I was not the one saying 3 months - she was. I didn't say agree or disagree with that. But if I say no to that, isn't that me trying to control. I wasn't the one saying MC - she was. Also, I'm not dating and I haven't agreed to any with her.
Also, She did all her own legwork, got her own place, coordinate all her own everything. But it sounds I can't support her decision in any way? Especially when she's telling me what she needs. I only told her to let me know the financial implications because that is important to manage. While I don't practice in family law, I certain know the rights and implications of the moving pieces here. I have had a consult with an family law L in town, so I'm all set on that. Unfortunately, the D laws in most states don't take into account bad actors (thank you R.Reagan in the 1970s...not really)
On her feelings of privacy. I get that you think it's rubbish steve, but if I say that to her ...is that me dismissing her feelings about it? And these feelings are from way before the 'incident" Some of which I contributed to.
