But i'm in a little bit of an odd position. My W is not talking D for now (key phrase) She has said that she doesn't want to divorce...but she said that she can't live with her anger towards me.
This is common. Been there, done that with a live-in XGF, reconciled after.
Originally Posted by McRamone
She told our MC that she is back and forth about moving out.
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Me: Thank you for letting me know as we discussed. I know this isn't easy for you or me. Let me know what help you need (with furniture, support, etc). I want you know that you have my support.
"I understand you have mixed feelings about moving out." -- This is active listening and validation. You're acknowledging her words and feelings without judging, pleading, anger, etc.
Originally Posted by McRamone
Her: I hear you but that is at odds with you being upset about the move.
Smart woman! If you don't want this separation, stop helping her to separate. Dig deep--why the inconsistent words and actions? Often it's an attempt to nice them back. You don't control if she goes; you do control if you make it easier. I assume she's an adult capable of figuring out how to move on her own and you don't live in a country where she needs your consent.
