If you or anybody else can give me some advice on how to reach this stage, please do so. Definitely the part where you mention the word amusing intrigues me. It must be wonderful to get to this point.
I’ve tried to write to you about this, but I’m finding it difficult to come up with the the words which might make a meaningful and helpful post.
Perhaps some of the veterans could explain this more eloquently? DNJ has certainly given a great perspective above.
The one thing I will say, is that while I made baby steps and steady progress towards detachment purely as a function of time, I think the major shift for me was when it dawned that my long term future was brighter without my ex in it. And I have her to thank for that… she did a great job with some really sh*tty behaviours in a short amount of time, and so what I was pining for suddenly became less attractive than starting again - and voila!
Time heals all wounds. Write a list of all the bad things about staying together and navigating a reconciliation, and all the good things about starting again. While that’s not really the point of a divorce busting, it will allow you to let go of some things, and by extension, shift your mindset towards indifference.
Only once the rope has been completely dropped by you, will the WS/MLCer lose all their power over you.
